How to fix a man's behavior?
Do you know your own husband well? And do you know how to influence a man to change his behavior for the better? After all, building relationships is not only a woman's competence, but also her sphere of responsibility.
How to understand a man?
If you listen to any person for at least fifteen minutes, you can definitely understand what he wants. I have my passions, Alex has his. I know what he wants ... then I think what I want and decide how to combine it. The main thing is to take into account the requests of both parties.
First, a man is easier to understand through his interests. Secondly, if you love a person, then it is important to know what he is fond of. Let me tell you a woman's secret: if you know your husband's favorite hobby, then it will be easy for you to interest him!
Here is fishing - if you know what kind of porridge the fish bite on, then this porridge can be used for bait. It is important to find out what the beloved is "biting" on, and only then decide whether to use it or not.
It is necessary to strive to understand the interests of the partner. Go to a match with him once. What if you are interested in this too? At the same time, you will feel what attracts your husband there. Maybe chatting with friends, maybe a thirst for a rush of adrenaline. What if he lacks the feeling “we won”? Go to a match with him - feel at least once what he gets there.
Psychology of a man
A man will stay with the woman for whom he is good. And if he is bad for you, then he will not be with you for a long time - either he will find one for whom he is good, or he will stay with you, but the relationship will die.
He will thank only that woman - carrying her booty and resources - for whom he is good. Such a desire will not arise where he is considered bad - if he does something, then reluctantly, from under the stick, and by no means out of the need to make this woman happy. It is easier for him to do so than not to do so ... But it can hardly suit us.
A man needs admiration to feel like a knight on horseback, to feel his strength. Male strength is a weak point that he tries to protect, so you can never say that he is weak. On the contrary, tell your partner that he is strong and that you believe in him and admire him.
Women often do not thank men - they think that he did some trifle: “And why do I need this, who asked him, this is some trifle…”, and so on. This can very much kill the desire in a man to do something further.
If you got sick, you asked him to buy you an aspirin, and he brought roses - well, he brought what he could. Not the worst option, by the way. And here it is important not to start being hypocritical and express your dissatisfaction. Just tell him, “Oops! Thanks! Wow - flowers ?! How caring and attentive you are! Can you bring me another aspirin? "
Male behavior
A man is a reagent. As we set the behavior, so it will react. It is like a seed from which a beautiful and strong plant can grow if you create the right conditions for it. And the woman's task is to create it for him.
We often really want to change a man's behavior, but in no case should this be done by force. Depending on what limitations he has, we can expand these frameworks: his capabilities, his abilities, his vision.
But everything would be too easy if for inspiration and motivation of a man it was enough to say something like: "You can - you are my hero!". No, it doesn't work that way - in order to expand the framework, you need to clearly know where they go. Then you will definitely be able to push them apart!
How to change an egoistic man?
I'll tell you my story. My husband is also selfish - like me. We love to receive love, but we do not love to give love - neither he nor me. We are both such "recipients".
Never in my life until now have I loved dogs - I loved cats, and I have had cats all my life. But then I got the idea that I need to get a dog that will love both him and me - and she will connect us.
I began to sell this idea to my husband, although at first he strongly objected: what kind of dog, when we just can't get along well ?! But in the third month of our life in New York, we got a dog, which had a very good effect on our relationship.
She loved the two of us - more than herself, more than we loved each other. And that really brought us together. This, of course, is a very particular example - but there are a lot of such options. Look for yours!
And Alex and I had our own version, which is simply impossible to think of - on May 8, on my birthday, our daughter Angelina was born. What is not a reason for new changes?
The mission of a woman is to create: a happy family, harmonious relationships, a beloved man. This is our strength - and our great responsibility.